Question Your Garden

I know you've heard "the eyes are the gateway to the soul." Here, I chat about what it means and how to possibly experience the breadth of this euphemism for yourself. Transcript from the episode: ______________________ Ohhhhhh the eyes. It's fairly common knowledge that making eye contact with others is a pretty big deal. I mean, you stand better chances on being a viable candidate in a job interview if you're able to make eye contact with confidence. And when you're speaking with someone else, eye contact is also considered a sign that you are listening to that person and that they have your undivided attention. Somehow or another, I learned to make good eye contact in scenarios where it is "required." At work or in interviews, I make great eye contact. I'm okay with this because it's important to me that the other person know that I'm paying attention to them and care what they have to say, because it's vastly...

The stress of obtaining a career-related certification was weighing heavily on me, but I didn't realize just how much! It caused enough stress to slow me down on producing other content for the podcast, so, I HAD to get this out. Transcript from the episode: ______________________ There are going to be times where my episodes are going to include what I call "brain dumps." Basically, when I need to unload thoughts that are dancing around in my brain in their incompleteness, I "brain dump" to get them all out and try to sort out what they're telling me. I, somewhat recently, had an exam to take to get a much coveted certification. The following is what I dumped from my skull, about a week before taking the exam: _______________ Life is a pain the ass sometimes. I have a few other drafts in the queue for episodes, but nothing 100% finished yet and nothing I'm feeling connected to enough to finish up so I can record. See. Okay. ...

Today, I just want to spend a little time talking about the dogs that have impacted me in my early years, likely giving me the push I needed to make it through the bullshit. Transcript from the show: _____________________ My family had numerous pets, while I was growing up - mostly cats and dogs. Thinking ahead, I may need to warn you that I'm probably gonna talk about some things that may be upsetting. Not all the animals in my life lived to ripe old ages. Not all the animals in our care, while I was a child, were taken care of very well. Although if you've been listening from the beginning, I doubt that'll be much of a surprise. Anywho. If you're just tuning in, I've gone through some sexual abuse, grew up in unsanitary living conditions, and it seems, may have also suffered from emotional neglect, which I'm still exploring at this point. I've always found trouble speaking up for myself. Speaking up for the animals though…nah…it was wa...

Your childhood matters a LOT. I don't think emotional neglect is talked about enough and for that reason, I've been pretty blind to it. Look below to some of the resources I talked about in the episode! Anxious Attachment Avoidant Attachment Therapist Uncensored (Specifically episodes 59, 60, and 61) Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson Transcript from the show: _____________________ Like fear of intimacy, I didn't see that emotional neglect was also a factor in my life. My brain translated those words into something that I thought would be glaringly obvious if it were a factor. And…it is but! If you don't know the ways in which emotional neglect develops and how it presents itself in yourself, you'll just look at it like another personality quirk. I mean, that's what I did. I just thought I was naturally reclusive. I've thought that sacrificing yourself to others and their needs were what "good...