Question Your Garden

Your childhood matters a LOT. I don't think emotional neglect is talked about enough and for that reason, I've been pretty blind to it. Look below to some of the resources I talked about in the episode! Anxious Attachment Avoidant Attachment Therapist Uncensored (Specifically episodes 59, 60, and 61) Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson Transcript from the show: _____________________ Like fear of intimacy, I didn't see that emotional neglect was also a factor in my life. My brain translated those words into something that I thought would be glaringly obvious if it were a factor. And…it is but! If you don't know the ways in which emotional neglect develops and how it presents itself in yourself, you'll just look at it like another personality quirk. I mean, that's what I did. I just thought I was naturally reclusive. I've thought that sacrificing yourself to others and their needs were what "good...

We create core beliefs as we grow up, to help us navigate through life. Sometimes, they're outdated and harmful. Join me as I do a bit of exploration with some that are front and center in my life, daily. Transcript from the show: _____________________ So, I haven't talked much about my EMDR therapy at this point because it's taken some time to get ready for those sessions. The other reason - my therapist listened when I requested that the "kid gloves" be removed. In my previous talk therapy experiences, it felt too slow - too…gentle. In our time getting prepped for EMDR, several sessions HAVE been talk therapy, but it was meaty stuff. It wasn't just "how are you feeling today?" stuff. It was "dig right into the flesh" stuff! I've fucking needed that. CRAVED that. Just rip the goddamn bandaid right off and get to the meat! I want solutions. I want reasons why I'm doing the shit that I'm doing so I can work on ...

In my head, I always thought "fear of intimacy" meant "fear of love." It's SOOOO much more than that…This episode isn't an exhaustive look at the topic, but there may be a few nuggets that you can relate to. Transcript from the show: _____________________ I think it was just before my first EMDR session that I discovered "fear of intimacy" was affecting me. I'd heard of it before, but in my head, I thought it was something else. "Shit, I'm not afraid of love! I can be loving and be loved! I can give affection and lean into it, no problem!" Oh, on the contrary smart lady! Yes, you are. And with as "sneaky" as the fear was in my life, I can almost wager bets that it's trying to sneak in on your life and relationships as well. Do you guys remember episode 10, where I talked about "The Lies I Tell Myself"? For those that missed it, it's basically a snapshot of some of the negat...

Have you explored the reasons why you quit things, or abandon your dreams? Do you "not try" to reach your dreams? Here, I take some time to dive into things that have halted me in my tracks. Can you relate? Transcript from the show: _____________________ Today's topic is one that's been pervasive in my life for a while. It needs some scrutiny too, especially since I started this whole podcast out by quote unquote bitching about being only recognized by or known for chickens. I have a fairly long track record of starting things and not finishing them; having grand ideas and then not seeing them through to completion. I drew a lot, as a child. I was fairly decent at it too. As I progressed through high school, life got in the way and I found less time to draw. I've thought about starting up again, over the years, but have wanted to get into digital artwork instead. I mean, there's just SO much you can do with digital media! But I'll...

A synopsis - many of us are in abusive relationships with ourselves. Negative self-talk is one of the worst things we can do to ourselves, but - we keep doing it! It's time to start asking ourselves some hard questions and to poke holes in the things we habitually tell ourselves. Transcript from the show: _____________________ So many times, while working on the drafts for this show or just thinking about publishing episodes, in general, I've told myself "It's not worth it." "It" being the show and my words. My thoughts. My efforts. Maybe even me, as a person. The thing is, it's done what I needed it to do, I think. It's allowed me to speak my words. Now, it's debatable on whether or not others have found value in what I've had to say, but again, this show was ultimately for ME. I'm OVER THE MOON at the idea that anyone actually LISTENS to the crap I talk about, don't get me wrong, but in the end, it was for ME. ...